Is it safe to be you in your home?
Consider the much-mocked term "safe space," used in academic settings to denote an area, office, or environment in which a student will not be bullied, criticized, or discriminated against for being, well, exactly who they are.
It's a ridiculed term because of two truths:
1. Safety of this type is never guaranteed and cannot be promised (humans being humans).
2. It SHOULD be safe to be you wherever you are.
We've all been in a place we thought was safe or with a person we thought was safe and suddenly, in the blink of an eye, the very same factors that made us feel safe are suddenly being used against us.
And I hope we've all had the comforting feeling of realizing -- even if but for a moment -- that we are safe because we accept ourselves for exactly who we are. That even on a busy street, or during a risky endeavor, or out in the world doing something scary, we are going to be okay. That's it's okay to live my truth -- it's okay to just be me. That being me isn't a crime or a sin or ugly or unimportant or lacking in some way.
We have control over one place: Our internal environment. We get to choose our thoughts.
This work, embracing simplicity, a “minimalism journey,” is about the interplay of internal environment and external environment. You're here because you realize that you have some control over your external environment. You probably realize too that what you see around you is deeply connected to the thoughts you think and the feelings you have.
You can tell a whole lot about someone from a 5-minute tour of their home.
And it’s not unfair to draw conclusions about the kind of person they are – what’s important to them, their personality, hopes, fears, dreams, interests, simply from the way their place looks. And feels.
Do you feel safe in your home? Truly, deeply safe being you?
Does your home reflect who you really are? Does it reflect what’s important to you and your family?
Or does it reflect who you think you are supposed to be while the real you has to make do with any space left over?
How do you create a safe space to be yourself?
A place where you and your family can blossom?
Here’s my simple, 3-step plan:
- Acknowledge who you are. What you like. How you spend your days.
- Accept who you are. Even if it’s not who you thought you’d be at this point.
- Arrange your furniture accordingly. Get rid of stuff accordingly. Keep stuff accordingly.
Your home should feel amazing to be in. It should work for you, not against you.
So do you want some support creating a safe space?
I invite you to join the 30-Day Map to Get Rid of Your Crap this April.
We'll do the outer work of decluttering our homes and lives. And we'll do the inner work because without the inner work, the outer work doesn’t matter and doesn’t last.
We’ll be getting in touch with our “minimalist mission statement” together and working towards creating the life of our dreams. It’s the life that is true – in a place where it feels supported, fun, and yes, safe, to be who you are.